Friend help

*Rose* · Subject: Re: Friend help 9/2/2008, 7:50 pm

Lydia wrote:

They're these 2 sisters who I thought were my bffs. They're starting to act different, and stopped asking me to hangout. I ask them to hangout, and they come, and I want to have a sleepover, but I'm starting to wonder if I should stop bugging them. Any advice?

Hrmm, honestly I would say, give it a week or two and if it hasn't cleared up just give them some time. If you wait a few weeks and don't bother them to hang out usually they come back a week or two later missing you. And if they don't you may ask? Then they aren't worth keeping. True friends will miss you if you drop them.

*Rose*

April · Subject: Re: Friend help 9/2/2008, 8:51 pm

I have a similar problem. I always feel like my friends are bugged by me. So far, they haven't been bothered, it was just me. But I don't know about your situation. I would think about what exactly is different. And see how long it lasts, and how long it has lasted. When did they start? Have they been doing this every day/time you see them? Only some days/times? If it hasn't been a week, give them a week. After about a week and a half or repeated behavior, I would talk to them. Or one of them, rather. Ash one of them if the other is bothered by you, and if you can do anything to stop and make them feel better.

hopefully this was understandable and helpful...

~April

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Sasha23 · Subject: Re: Friend help 9/2/2008, 10:25 pm

Yeah, I agree with Lily. I think that maybe something happened to them that didn't include you such as a family matter or something. Good luck!

*Rose* · Subject: Re: Friend help 9/3/2008, 8:29 pm

bluedolfin wrote:

I have a similar problem. I always feel like my friends are bugged by me. So far, they haven't been bothered, it was just me. But I don't know about your situation. I would think about what exactly is different. And see how long it lasts, and how long it has lasted. When did they start? Have they been doing this every day/time you see them? Only some days/times? If it hasn't been a week, give them a week. After about a week and a half or repeated behavior, I would talk to them. Or one of them, rather. Ash one of them if the other is bothered by you, and if you can do anything to stop and make them feel better.

hopefully this was understandable and helpful...

~April

I Agree with this. Its somtimes helpful to sit down and look at the situation as a whole. When did it start? Why did it start? Sometimes you can point out something you did that was wierd or soemthing they did. When someone is growing away from me i sit down and think "What has changed" Sometiems i notice its soemthing i have been doing that not even i like that im doing, and i work REALLY hard to change it. I pissed off one of my friends over this guy a few weeks ago, so what i did was now i just dont talk to the guy around her or hardly ever really... I got over it. Well looking at your flaws are really helpful in these situations.

*Rose*

Lydia · Subject: Re: Friend help 9/4/2008, 1:38 pm

It started in the beggining of summer. Sad

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*Rose* · Subject: Re: Friend help 9/4/2008, 4:31 pm

Lydia wrote:

It started in the beggining of summer. Sad

I dont understand what you mean. What does that have to do with anything?

*Rose*

Lily · Founder Number of posts: 272 Registration date: 2008-08-31

I think she just means that they started acting this way to her at the begining of the summer.

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